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IrOnMaN
10-08-2008, 02:03 PM
Last week at the library, I was listening to a group of men and women talking about random stuff. One chick (who I think is in thier class) walks up to the table and speaks to everyone and starts talking. Real nice girl, too. I'd say about 15 minutes later, she says goodbye and leaves. Really polite. When she left, they started saying how dumb she was and how she doesn't know shit. They were talking smack about her for like 20 minutes or so. I'm sitting there saying to myself "Are you serious? You guys just smile and laughed in her face."

I'm no angel. I've said bad things about people behind their back, but I try not to anymore. I look at it like this: If you don't have anything nice to say about someone, don't say it at all. Just keep it to youself because it'll catch up to you. And this is how fights are started, relationship are ended, families tored apart, fist fights, bad trust, etc. Someone talking smack because he/she didn't have the balls to say it to he/she face.

Longbongcilvaringz
10-08-2008, 02:17 PM
Eavesdropping is bad.

But yeah, i don't particularly like the people i hang around with and we talk shit about each other constantly.

Behind the back, or face to face, it doesn't really matter.

TAURO
10-08-2008, 02:35 PM
It's called being polite....or two faced depending on how you look at it. The thing is those people were probably engaging in polite conversation with her because she approached them and they didn't want to appear rude or cause a scene, that happens alot with people you meet. If those people had started acting hostyle towards her from the beginning it would have most likely caused major friction which would have ruined everybody's mood and led to a scene, which I gather would not be something they would have wanted given they were in a library.

TSA
10-08-2008, 02:42 PM
yeah, this happens alot. Im really bad at biting my tongue cause i dont see the need but alot of the times it's battles not worth fighting to expose the person or tell them off.

like this one bitch that was lying and saying she was a model in italy.
then she had all this shit on her myspace of her 'dad' and 'brother' in italy and generic postcard pictures. Then i got horn tooted when she had a picture of a bitch that was mixed and tall and she's fully black short and said it was her 'with some airbrushing' LOL!


anyways, i got pissed off cause it's kind of a slap in black ppls face, she was fooling the shit out of white ppl though. I exposed the dickens out of her cause the dad is anglo looking, her brother is a known model, and i found those exact pictures of google, and the mixed bitch with a pointy nose.

now i wish i wouldn't have cause she's going to me school and i wanna fuck the shit out of her. :{

Guarded By Martyrs
10-08-2008, 02:43 PM
I think it's being two faced.

I'm pretty sure if the girl knew what they were saying about her...
She'd not bother talking to them again.

I myslef don't hang with people I don't like...
For the most part I don't like the people who don't like me, I think thats the best way.
I understand what TAURO is saying but fail to see how they are being polite
When as soon as she's gone they talk about her in a negative way.
I've always thought polite people were nice ?
But this proves that theory wrong.
I know I'd rather be in the girls position, speaking about people behind their backs
In that context is wrong I think.

TAURO
10-08-2008, 02:47 PM
But you have to remember that this girl approached them so they had really no choice in the matter. It came down to either putting up with her for that moment or causing a scene.

Guarded By Martyrs
10-08-2008, 02:54 PM
Yes that is a good point.

If I was in the group and diddn't like her I wouldn't have said anything.
Even if she said hello I would engage her but she would know I'm not her friend.

I just think it's bitchy, talking to her all nice and then slaging her off ?
I would have thought people would like to know where they stand with others
And they are not helping her do that, the fact she came over to them
Indicates that she thinks they are her friends...when thisseems to not be the case.

I wonder how it would be different if it was a dude who came over ?
Perhaps they would be intimitaed by him ?
Or maybe he wouldn't even have approached them and waited to see if they
Were to call him over ?

I just think if someone was talking behind my back and I was told by someone else...
I would have more respect for them if they told me o my face.

Where's the honesty ?

supreme M
10-08-2008, 03:10 PM
haters are always losers

Prolifical ENG
10-08-2008, 03:13 PM
Sometimes you have to socialize with those people because they are always around you. At work its the worst when everyone doesn't like several people but they pull through it because its business.

Longbongcilvaringz
10-08-2008, 03:30 PM
Well, you know, initial impressions of people may not last.

Some people i've really hated initially turned out to be interesting people in the long run.

Tolerance usually isn't good, but it can lead to a greater appreciation or understanding of some people i think.

Surreptitious
10-08-2008, 03:41 PM
absolutely not, except you fags

HANZO
10-08-2008, 03:41 PM
Its jus being polite at the end of the day. You cant blank ppl if they start talking to you, even if you dnt like them.

I try my best to be polite to ppl, but sometimes i got the habit of dissing ppl who start chatting shit.

Cee Oh Vee
10-08-2008, 04:40 PM
Yeah man i regularly socialise with people i'm not particularly fond of. it's one of the best ways to reflect upon and gain knowledge of the self. the sufis say that the 'dunya' (this world [which includes the people of it]) is a mirror to the self. which is totally true if you think about it.

and people backbite far too much and don't acknowledge the seriousness of it. anything in which would not be said about the person spoken about, TO the person spoken about; should not be said at all, it's as simple as that.

but i certainly don't agree with people being rude to somebody to their face no matter what opinion they may have of that person.

there are ways in which to go about interacting with people, and the majority of people today just abandon them.

with peace

Dirty Knowledge
10-08-2008, 04:52 PM
It sounds like she likes them.

They hated on her.

Why?

What about this girl is so special?

Tell us more about her.

Dirty Knowledge
10-08-2008, 04:53 PM
absolutely not, except you fags

yeah, this too

but naw..there are a few homies from the knee high era that turned out to be on some bullshit...ill kick it with them, smoke a blunt or two, but thats about it. never chill with someone i straight up disliked. wanted to beat down or some shit.

Longbongcilvaringz
10-08-2008, 05:05 PM
Yeah man i regularly socialise with people i'm not particularly fond of. it's one of the best ways to reflect upon and gain knowledge of the self. the sufis say that the 'dunya' (this world [which includes the people of it]) is a mirror to the self. which is totally true if you think about it.

and people backbite far too much and don't acknowledge the seriousness of it. anything in which would not be said about the person spoken about, TO the person spoken about; should not be said at all, it's as simple as that.

but i certainly don't agree with people being rude to somebody to their face no matter what opinion they may have of that person.

there are ways in which to go about interacting with people, and the majority of people today just abandon them.

with peace

Exactly.

That's what im saying.

diggy
10-08-2008, 06:52 PM
When I don't like someone, I do not look at them or talk to them unless I have to. If they greet me, I greet them back, but I will not go into extensive conversation needlessly.

Longbongcilvaringz
10-08-2008, 06:58 PM
You fucking arsehole.

diggy
10-08-2008, 07:06 PM
Why do you say that?

Longbongcilvaringz
10-08-2008, 07:07 PM
Oh shit, my bad.

"You fucking arsehole?"

lol, i guess that could have looked wrong without the question mark.

IrOnMaN
10-10-2008, 12:11 PM
I know my cousin talks shit about my sister, brother, and I for a certain reason (money). She always have and always will. When I see her at family gatherings, she'll start a conversion with me then I will say a few words to her. I know she's fake as hell but she is family.

SaqurakiHanamichi
10-10-2008, 11:12 PM
werd i keep away from that shit, im not an angel too , sometimes it comes out, but than when i say it 1 min later i think about how wrong it is that i have gossiped

gossiping is pathetic, I dont trust men who talk too much and who gossip about others.


I have alot of work to do as a human being, but hey you gotta know the bad to really understand the good....


and gossiping is a pathetic trait,