Tectrus Moa
01-29-2009, 09:07 PM
I believe this is true for a number of reasons. For example, last year in December when I was taking General Physics II lab, the class had to work in teams to complete the last lab that was due at the end of class. The team that I was in paired up with two other people (one male and one female). At first, things were going great. We were all communicating effectively and discussing the project as a team. When we finished the project, we had to complete a written assignment as well. That's when things got nasty.
The two people who joined our team started to become frustrated with the written assignment. They were constantly saying "Okay. What's going on here? I don't know to do this. This is really stupid! I'm freaking out!". The pressure was on everybody. It wasn't only them being frustrated with the assignment, some people were freaking out as well. The lady who I was working with was really sweet and cool. She tried to help the two people to complete the assignment. Since they couldn't understand what to do, they started to attack her by saying that she doesn't know what she's doing and she's stupid. She played it off like it was nothing and continued doing the assignment.
What happen? At first, we were all laughing, talking, smiling, joking around, working together as a team. Moments later, they turned on us. When we all were done, they looked at us like we weren't nothing.
When things get tight, people show you who they really are. When people are facing death, they show you who they really are. When something terrible happens to a family, like the electricity getting cut off or a couple getting put out on the street, somebody is going to flip out on someone. But some people can maintain themselves. That's true discipline!
When we get upset or angry, we say things that we really mean. That's the truth. If you didn't mean it, why'd you say it? It's not that you didn't mean it, you're just sorry that you said it out loud. The truth came out. Then we say to ourselves "That's a relief."
I always forgive the person, but not the act. People don't know any better.
The two people who joined our team started to become frustrated with the written assignment. They were constantly saying "Okay. What's going on here? I don't know to do this. This is really stupid! I'm freaking out!". The pressure was on everybody. It wasn't only them being frustrated with the assignment, some people were freaking out as well. The lady who I was working with was really sweet and cool. She tried to help the two people to complete the assignment. Since they couldn't understand what to do, they started to attack her by saying that she doesn't know what she's doing and she's stupid. She played it off like it was nothing and continued doing the assignment.
What happen? At first, we were all laughing, talking, smiling, joking around, working together as a team. Moments later, they turned on us. When we all were done, they looked at us like we weren't nothing.
When things get tight, people show you who they really are. When people are facing death, they show you who they really are. When something terrible happens to a family, like the electricity getting cut off or a couple getting put out on the street, somebody is going to flip out on someone. But some people can maintain themselves. That's true discipline!
When we get upset or angry, we say things that we really mean. That's the truth. If you didn't mean it, why'd you say it? It's not that you didn't mean it, you're just sorry that you said it out loud. The truth came out. Then we say to ourselves "That's a relief."
I always forgive the person, but not the act. People don't know any better.