Originally Posted by FMJ
Why do they need constant assurances? Is it because they are well adjusted and mentally balanced? If you prove that you are a good man and you are still treated like an enemy, maybe you should not even consider them for a relationship. Maybe the problem is with them.
Try to find a person who is not as damaged. A person who is not a cynic and a skeptic and narrow minded (those things are big in the black community). Try to find somebody who will love you for who you are, and not somebody who cannot even see you cuz they may be blinded by skin colour and other stuff.
I understand where you're coming from. This is the problem: Trying to search for someone who isn't damaged is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. Who hasn't been damaged in some way or form from previous relationships, especially women.
I'm not an angel, nor is anyone else. The hate thing is normal but I'm not going to change who I am to please anyone. I can only try to pursue who I think will be worth pursuing.
I'm usually tossed to the side and I feel that I'm just another guy with a car and some cash. It's whatever at this point.