more than like rap etc???

I noticed alot of guys be listening to r& the love songs. The dudes seem to listen to that more the rap?? especially cats around my age (im gonna be 23 this year) and older. Like i thought dudes be listening to that gangsta shit but they listen to lyfe jennings, bilal, mario, etc.... even usher... so whaddup? what u into? cuz for me i can't listen to that too gully for that... and uhm plus them songs are very love sick songs.... but u fellas listen to? are you more rap these days? or have u matured into rnb??