What the hell should I do?

[LHX]

Originally Posted by Princerai

WU TANG SUPPORT CORP
NOW thats what we talkin about,

LHX me n others can handle a new forum..
peace
eazzzzy

sounds like we in business

- accepting new customers -

[Prince Rai]

Originally Posted by LHX

sounds like we in business

- accepting new customers -

WORD its started

[arcane]

Wu-Tang Support Corp eh?.... sounds good.

I wonder how many people have ended relationships because it's "The Way of the Samurai"...

I get the picture though - if the relationship as I know and enjoy it is gone, then there's no point grasping at straws. The question remains whether that relationship is in fact gone for good. If I had a time frame, this shit would all be easier.

The Support Corp may be hearing from me yet... peace.

[Prince Rai]

Originally Posted by arcane

Wu-Tang Support Corp eh?.... sounds good.

I wonder how many people have ended relationships because it's "The Way of the Samurai"...

I get the picture though - if the relationship as I know and enjoy it is gone, then there's no point grasping at straws. The question remains whether that relationship is in fact gone for good. If I had a time frame, this shit would all be easier.

The Support Corp may be hearing from me yet... peace.

if anythin arcane, this path is a lesson for future relationships.

peace

[crastuf]

Do whatever it takes to keep her. But be wise and smart. Cus when she's gon', She gon'

[Prince Rai]

Originally Posted by crastuf

Do whatever it takes to keep her. But be wise and smart. Cus when she's gon', She gon'

wisely put

[arcane]

Originally Posted by Princerai

if anythin arcane, this path is a lesson for future relationships.

peace

Yeah, no doubt, but it's tough when there are no warning signs. I learned a lot from a couple of past relationships and this was one going great because I had avoided dating someone with the same pitfalls as ex-girlfriends. But that wisdom wasn't enough in this case.

I guess if you date enough people and have enough experience to go on, you can eventually see trouble coming.

[arcane]

Bump for more feedback. All ideas appreciated.

[tostones]

peace

the "wants a long-term relationship" versus "doesn't want that yet" problem has ended in sorrow many many times.

mixed messages are rough

I would not have the patience

peace

[Decka]

arcane how long are you willing to let this go on for?

It sounds to me like she is afraid that she is gonna fall for you hard, and if that happens she could end up gettin hurt. But in a relationship the good always out weighs the bad try and let her know that.

The number one thing you dont wanna do is seem needy, that might scare her off, hope i helped.

Peace

[deadlymelody]

It may seem harsh, but she wants to be single and have a ton of one night stands. She'll come back to you it sounds like she's interested enough.

[THE W]

well if you really want to be with her then you need to just let this thing play itself out. dont rush things. she has to want to be in an involved love relationship for herself as well as for you. she wants to make sure that this is what she wants.

assuming she isnt getting plowed by some other guy her decision to do this has nothing to do with you. shes just weighing her options and the best thing for you to do is give her the love and space she needs. but im curious to know what her response was if you ever asked her if their was someone else?

[JASPER]

She sounds like the kind of girl that longes for constant changes in her life. Bored easily. If I were you I'd save myself the trouble and pain and find someone else.

Do something different for a change. Take her somewhere new or treat her to something that she'd enjoy for herself. It's the summer there is so much to do out there, if you break the every day environment that your both acustomed to you can get to know each other at a new angle and maybe break the sour spell. But I must say that their is a problem here. Sometimes when we are in the first stages we tend to fall into a trap and everything is always the same and boring. You got to do stuff that will show her that if you spend the rest of your life together it's worth it. That means proving that your better than the rest of the chumps out there and you are her perfect match. I don't know how you normally spend your time together but time is all we really have to give eachother, nothing else really matters. You have to make sure she enjoys herself and that you make her smile and laugh and that their is a real genuine connection. Just make sure you don't lose who you are tryin' to please her, if it doesn't work make that mutal decision to move on!

[arcane]

Damn... some great feedback. Thanks so much.

method_mack - you're right on when you say I have to avoid coming across needy. That's exactly the type of shit that will scare her - it's happened to her before.

wade - I'm just about 100% sure that there's no other guy because her best friend is also a friend of mine (a girl). They've just been spending a lot of time together recently... I can confirm that. Now if she's getting busy with another woman, I guess I won't have seen that coming... I don't think so though. Great advice though - what you said is exactly what I'm trying to do. It's really extremly difficult though.

Jasper - you make a good case, and believe me part of me says that too. But for the moment, it's worth it to me to see how this plays out.

Queen Bee - you're absolutely right too. The one problem is that she's scared to spend time with me right now for fear that we'll end up rehashing the same issues. No matter - I'll be patient and next time I see her, I'm following your advice and we're doing something new. By the way, I think summer may be part of the problem to begin with - she sees all the stuff going on and misses being single and just hanging out with friends.


Thanks again for all the feedback. Peace.